“This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another.” 1 John 3: 1
“Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” 1 John 3: 18
“. . . train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind. . .” Titus 2:4-5
I have been reading several blogs lately that have spoken of making our homes a haven for our families. This has been so interesting to me, as it has given a word to what I have in my heart to provide for my family.
“Haven – Harbor; port; place of safety.” -Webster’s Dictionary
Imagine a ship out to sea, facing the storms, the beating of the sun and the waves, and the pull of the tide. Now imagine that ship coming into port and docking – no longer in danger of being swept off course or lost in the storm. The harbor is where the boat is stabilized and washed off and repaired from it’s journey into the world. It is a place of rest and regrouping before the next voyage.
I believe that our homes are meant to be this harbor for our families – this haven. I don’t think this means perfection, but rest and shelter and support – a place filled with love and the practical working out of that love. One of our jobs as wives and mothers is to make this haven a reality for our families. The bonus is that when our home is a haven for our families, it is also a haven for us!
Now, while this is the desire of my heart, I too often find that my home isn’t feeling like much of a haven. The reality is that while there is definitely love in my home, there is also selfishness and sinfulness living here (certainly my own self included!) Only by the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives will our homes ever be the haven that we desire -
“Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” Psalm 127: 1
The first thing that I can do towards this end, then, is to make sure I am spending time with the Lord each day – reading His Word, talking to Him and listening to what He has to teach me. (This is soooo convicting, even as I write!) Following this is to teach God’s truth to my children, so that they will know His will and learn to follow Him. One small thing that I am doing to help with this is to post Scripture around the house. We have had various different Scriptures posted in the past, but today I will be making several signs that sum up everything for our family – “Love God” and “Love each other”. I hope that these will serve as visual reminders to everyone (myself included) of our goal and purpose as a family.
While I feel that our spiritual attitude is the most important factor in making our home a haven, there are many other things that we can do as wives and mothers to bless our families, both in attitude and practical ways (not that our attitude isn’t practical!) I am going to start an ongoing series on this topic titled “Making My Home a Haven” as a regular feature on my blog. I hope to share ideas that I have incorporated into my home as well as those that I pick up around the web. I pray that it will bless you and I both as we endeavor to glorify the Lord as we minister to our families!
I’ll leave you with one simple idea for starters – candles! I love candles, and I tend to light a few most evenings. It makes our house feel cozier and adds a pleasing aroma to our home (which is usually needed in a house with 2 children in diapers, 3 dogs and 2 cats!) I love to light a candle while I am in the kitchen working – it just makes the room more pleasant. My favorite scents are vanilla, sugar cookie, and cinnamon for this time of year. Candles create a homey atmosphere for our family (located safely, of course!), which I think adds to our sense of haven.
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